Alexa Gelles

& Associates

604-239-3044

Couples & Relationship Counselling in Vancouver

We help individuals, couples, and families break out of stuck patterns, heal anxiety, process trauma with EMDR, and navigate conflict to build more fulfilling relationships.

With relatable, evidence-based support, you can understand your relationship patterns, build self-worth, and strengthen your connections with others.

In-person & online counselling in Vancouver, BC.

Helping you build secure, lasting relationships

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Areas We Support

Counselling gives you tools to break unhealthy cycles, strengthen connection, and build more secure, fulfilling relationships—with yourself and others.

We offer support in areas like:

Relationship Anxiety

Ease the worry, doubt, and overthinking that make it hard to feel calm or secure in your relationship. Learn to trust yourself and your connection again.

Relational Trauma

Heal from past betrayal, neglect, or emotional wounds that continue to impact your current relationships. Build safety, trust, and deeper connection.

Lay a strong foundation for your future together. Strengthen communication, navigate differences, and feel confident taking the next step.

Marital Problems

Rebuild closeness and understanding when things feel distant or tense. Learn to resolve conflict, reconnect, and feel like a team again.

Self-Esteem

Develop self-worth and confidence from within so you can show up authentically and feel secure—both in and outside your relationships.

Relationship Clarity

Whether you’re questioning your relationship or stuck in familiar dynamics, therapy helps you see things clearly and make confident, grounded choices.

Preparation for Marriage

Heal from past betrayal, neglect, or emotional wounds that continue to impact your current relationships. Build safety, trust, and deeper connection.

Rebuild closeness and understanding when things feel distant or tense. Learn to resolve conflict, reconnect, and feel like a team again.

Addictions

Heal the tension, and disconnection that addiction creates in your relationship. Rebuild trust and support each other without codependency.

Family Problems

Ease tension, conflict, and old patterns that strain your family. Set boundaries, communicate clearly, and bring more peace into your home.

ADHD & Autism

Navigate the overwhelm and sensory differences that come with neurodivergence. Learn how to turn differences into connection

What You May Be Struggling With

Relationships can feel tiring and confusing when patterns keep repeating. Maybe you're noticing:

Stuck in the same disagreements or going in circles with communication



Feeling disconnected, unheard, or misunderstood by your partner

Carrying past wounds, betrayal, or trust issues into your current relationship

Struggling with jealousy, overthinking, or fear of abandonment

Avoiding intimacy or pushing partners away


Feeling unsure how to set boundaries, speak up, or advocate for yourself

How Therapy Helps

Counselling gives you the tools and strategies to stop unhealthy cycles, strengthen your connection, and move forward with confidence. Working together, you’ll:

Break repetitive patterns and unhealthy habits

Improve communication so you feel heard and understood

Manage triggers, emotions, and anxiety in real time

Build confidence and security in yourself and your relationships

Heal past wounds and learn to trust again

5 Communication Mistakes that
Keep You Going in Circles

  •  5 common communication mistakes that keep couples stuck in the same cycle
  • How to shift conversations so you both feel heard
  • Practical, therapist-backed strategies you can start using right away



Tired of going in circles with your partner?
Discover how to have conversations that create connection instead of keeping you stuck.

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     Vancouver-Based,
    Relationship-Obsessed,
    Relatable therapists

    We’re All About Relationships

    Whether it’s relationship anxiety, recovering from breakups, communication challenges, or navigating infidelity—we focus on helping you build secure, lasting connections.

    We go beyond surface-level issues or the “problem of the week” to address the root causes that keep patterns repeating.

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    We get it—relationships can be challenging. we’re here to help












    With a Dedicated Team Behind You

    We combine personal experience with professional expertise to support meaningful, lasting change—so you can create a life and relationships you love.

    Alexa Gelles, RCC

    Founder & Clinical director

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    Colleen Marcoux, RCC & CCC

    Associate counsellor

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    Karanvir Singh, RCC & CCC

    REGISTERED CLINICAL COUNsELLOR

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    Say goodbye to endless late-night internet searches or crisis calls to your bestie!

    Our mission is simple: to help you build healthy, secure relationships—with yourself and the people you care about.

    We do things differently

    We offer full-spectrum support—from overcoming blocks and building healthy relationships to creating a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

    At Aligned Relationship Counselling, you’ll get the help you need to take your life and relationships from “just fine” to confidently saying, “things are going great!”

    Whether through individual, EMDR or couples counselling, we'll help you feel secure in yourself and your relationships, so you can let go of old baggage and fully enjoy your life and relationships.





    Meet the team

    “There was nothing we did not find helpful! Alexa is wonderful. Her teaching style is very calming and encouraging."

    -S&U

    WAYS TO WORK TOGETHER

    For us, it's 

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    Individual Counselling

    01.

     Break unhealthy patterns, manage emotions, make relationship decisions, boost self-esteem, or heal from a breakup.

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    Couples
    Counselling

    02.

    Break repetitive conflicts, communicate better, rebuild trust, and deepen intimacy for a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

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    Premarital Counselling

    03.

    Ideal for couples in their first 5 years who want guidance and practical tools to strengthen communication, deepen understanding, and prepare for a strong future together.



















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    EMDR Counselling

    04.

    For anyone wanting to break free from stuck patterns, manage triggers and intense emotions, and heal from past experiences.


















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    Anxiety Counselling

    05.

    Perfect for individuals whose anxiety affects their relationships, confidence, or daily life—and who want tools to feel calmer, clearer, and more in control.



















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    Trauma Counselling

    06.

    Ideal for anyone carrying past relationship wounds or attachment challenges who wants support to heal, regain trust, and build healthier connections.



















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    Marital Counselling

    07.

    Improve communication, work through ongoing conflict, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional and physical connection in your marriage so you can feel more aligned and connected again.

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    Family Counselling

    08.

    Improve communication across the family, reduce conflict at home, navigate parenting and co-parenting challenges, and create more clarity, cooperation, and connection between family members.

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    Neurodivergent Counselling

    09.

    Understand each other’s neurotypes, navigate triggers and sensitivities, improve communication, and create practical strategies for co-living so you can feel more connected, supported, and in sync.

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    Addictions Counselling

    10.

    Rebuild trust, set clear boundaries, reduce conflict related to substance use or behaviours, and support recovery in a way that strengthens your relationship without enabling.

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    Frequently Asked Questions

    Do I need to come with my partner?

    Not always. Individual sessions help you understand yourself and your patterns. If your partner is willing, couples sessions can be added to work on communication, conflict, and connection. Unsure? A free consultation can help you decide.

    How long will therapy take?

    It depends on your goals. Some clients feel progress in a few sessions, while deeper change may take several months.

    Can therapy help with past betrayals or trust issues?

     Yes. We work with you to process past wounds, rebuild trust, and develop tools for healthier future connections.

    Can I combine individual support with couples counselling?

    Absolutely. Many clients benefit from individual work alongside couples sessions for extra guidance and support.

    STEP 1

    step 2

     Fill out your confidential intake form online before your first session. This helps your counsellor understand your history, challenges, and goals so your time together is focused.

    STEP 3

    In your first session, you and your counsellor will explore your challenges, identify patterns, and create a personalized plan to help you reach your goals.

    Schedule your first session or a free 15-minute consultation here. Unsure who to work with? Contact our Client Care Coordinator, and we’ll help you find the right match.

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    Complete Your Intake Form

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    FREE RESOURCES

    Communication Guide

    Discover the 5 most common mistakes that keep couples stuck in the same cycle, and what to do instead.






    Stronger Together Blog

    Take the guesswork out of relationships with digestible blog posts that show you how to nurture your relationship and break free from unhealthy patterns—without the jargon or overwhelm!


    Built to Love Podcast

    Your go-to podcast for strengthening your connection, navigating conflict, and bringing more ease into your relationship.


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    Relationship-building resources to help you improve communication, manage conflict, and create a strong foundation with your partner.







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    Many people are curious about EMDR counselling but aren’t sure whether it’s the right fit for them. They may have heard EMDR is used for trauma but wonder if it can help with anxiety, relationship issues, low self-worth, or patterns they’ve struggled to change for years. The truth is that EMDR isn’t just for trauma […]

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    Starting EMDR counselling can feel exciting, hopeful, and a little nerve-wracking all at the same time. Many people are curious about how EMDR works but aren’t sure what to expect during their first appointment. The good news is that your first EMDR session is not about diving straight into difficult memories. Instead, it’s about understanding […]

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