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How to Stop the Withdraw-Pursue Cycle and Build a Stronger Relationship

If you’re tired of repeating the same argument with your partner, you’re not alone. The withdraw-pursue dynamic is something many couples face. One partner pulls back, while the other pushes harder, and before you know it, you’re both stuck in a pattern that’s hard to break. Understanding this cycle can help you get past it […]

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Hey, I’m Alexa! I’m a Registered Clinical Counsellor based in Vancouver, B.C. I’ve curated this blog specifically for you to answer your most pressing questions about counselling and building healthy relationships.

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When we’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed, it’s important to have self-soothing techniques at our disposal to help us find calm and tranquility. These simple yet effective methods can bring peace and restore balance to our minds and bodies. Here are some of the best self-soothing techniques you can try: 1. Deep Breathing: Inhale deeply through […]

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Navigating relationship challenges can be daunting, especially when your partner isn’t open to seeking support. It’s natural to feel frustrated and isolated in such situations. However, it’s important to approach this matter with empathy and understanding to increase the chances of getting them on board. Reasons Your Partner Might Be Resistant: 1. Past Negative Experiences: […]

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In our journey through life, we inevitably encounter moments that leave a lasting impact on our emotional well-being. Whether it’s a traumatic event or a persistent emotional distress, these experiences can weigh us down and hinder our ability to move forward. But what if there was a way to tap into our brain’s innate ability […]

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Every couple experiences disagreements—it’s a natural and even healthy part of any relationship. However, what truly matters is how you approach those conflicts. The key is to fight fair. Fighting fair means engaging in difficult conversations where both partners can express themselves openly, without fear of things spiralling out of control. Here are five practical […]

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Why Do Timeouts Matter? Timeouts are crucial because they prevent conversations from escalating into regretful words and actions. When we’re caught up in the heat of the moment, it becomes challenging to communicate effectively. By taking a break, you can come back to the conversation with a refreshed perspective, improved emotional state, and a greater […]

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5 Communication Mistakes that Keep You Going in Circles

* The 5 most common mistakes that keep couples stuck in the same cycle
* How to shift conversations so you actually feel heard
* Simple, therapist-backed strategies you can start using right away

Tired of going in circles with your partner? See how to have conversations that create connection instead of keeping you stuck including:




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